Exercises for Modern Intimacy for Married Couples

The idea that “real love arises spontaneously” and the inference that “effort need not apply” to romantic relationships may still be ingrained in some of us. You could go into danger if you have this kind of mentality. The truth is that true love necessitates actual work and effort, long after the wedding day or the move-in date. But understanding how to construct it is a quite different matter.

Intimacy in marriage is a combination of the closeness you grow to your spouse as you share your lives together on a physical, emotional, cerebral, and even spiritual level. Developing closeness inside a marriage is crucial for enhancing the couple’s connection. What therefore can couples do to increase closeness in their union?

You should constantly look for ways to maintain your relationship intimate, whether it is through intimacy games for couples, workouts for married couples, or relationship-building activities. Let this article prepare you to begin some marriage intimacy exercises that are regularly suggested in couples therapy to help couples reconnect.

Exercises for Modern Intimacy for Married Couples

Prolonged hug

Start begin with something simple. Pick the time, whether it’s at night or in the morning, and use that priceless period of time to spend at least 30 minutes cuddling. If this is how long you often cuddle, extend it to an hour.

Why does it work?

One of the characteristics of bonding is physical intimacy. The sensation of connection required in good relationships is produced by the pheromones, kinetic energy, and chemical reactions that take place merely by cuddling with your significant other. This is effective for both emotional closeness exercises and sex therapy exercises.

Breathing coordination drill

Like many intimate pastimes, this one could seem ridiculous at first, but if you’re willing to give it a shot, you might fall in love. With your eyes closed, you and your partner will face each other while seated and lightly touch foreheads.

You’ll start taking several coordinated, deep breaths. You and your partner are welcome to participate for as many breaths as you wish, with the recommended amount of tandem breaths beginning at 7. By facilitating the interchange of shared energy through the brow or “third eye” chakra, the touch and the perception of touch, when coordinated with breathing, naturally foster feelings of connection.

This might draw on some of our most basic abilities, such as our capacity for spirituality and for the organic interchange of energy.

Soul’s view

In this exercise to increase closeness, you will simply sit face to face and gaze into each other’s eyes while pretending that the eyes are a window into the soul. This practice is a classic, despite the initial corniness of many of these kinds of exercises.

Although you can initially feel uncomfortable, the activity becomes calming and peaceful as you become used to sitting and looking into one another’s eyes. So that you have 4-5 minutes of timed focus, try putting it to music.

Things usually move more slowly after this kind of activity. For the most benefit, it should be performed multiple times a week. In today’s hectic world, the couple can unwind and refocus by focusing for 4-5 minutes solely on each other’s eyes.

Certainly, you may blink during the activity, but try to refrain from speaking. Some couples use a 4 or 5 minute song to set the background and time.

Three things

You and your partner can play this one however you like.  One of you may state your things all in one go, or you may alternate.  Think of the questions you want to ask; write them down if it helps.

The questions will be phrased as such:

What 3 things will you want to eat for dessert this month?

What 3 things will you be sure to take with you on an adventure to a tropical island?

What 3 things do you hope to do together that we haven’t tried?

These are merely examples, you should get the idea.

This is a dialogue exercise about intimacy and marriage. It strengthens your relationship by improving your ability to communicate and by letting you know more about one another’s ideas, emotions, and hobbies. Also, since interests might change over time, it is useful. The answers will also provide data that will probably be valuable in the future.

One mouth, two ears.

In this activity, one partner speaks or “vents” on a subject of their choice, and the other partner must sit across from them and only listen. You two might be surprised by how uncomfortable it might feel to simply listen without responding. The listener is then free to offer criticism once the five, three, or eight-minute diatribe is finished. Another communication exercise that improves our ability to fully listen and absorb another person’s stream of consciousness is active listening practice.

They will feel as like we have our full attention when we concentrate on them without being distracted, which is important yet uncommon in today’s hectic society. Deliberate listening also serves as a reminder to keep our attention on the other person and refrain from speaking before they are ready. At the conclusion of this activity, you will switch roles as speaker and listener.

Extra activities for couples before bed and advice for increasing intimacy

Here are some wonderful evening rituals you can adopt for increased intimacy:

Put your phones away: Not only is this good for your relationship, but having no electronic light at all is also good for your sleep hygiene. It will significantly improve the quality of the sleep you can get.

Emphasize your relationship with your partner before you fall asleep. Discuss the day, your emotions, or anything else on your mind. To strengthen your relationship, turn off your phones and/or burn a few scented candles. Sleeping naked has been shown to have positive effects on one’s health. It regulates cortisol, is great for genital health and improves skin quality too.

One of the best exercises for couples sex therapy is this one. Also, it enables more skin-to-skin contact between you and your lover, which causes the release of oxytocin. Also, it makes morning sexual activity much simpler!

Massage one another: This is a wonderful habit to develop! Suppose your sweetheart is lavishing you with a loving massage after a difficult day. Whatever your motivation, massage is a fantastic technique for strengthening intimacy and relaxation before bed.

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Do you know what stinks at the end of the day? Lack of thanks. Criticism. You’ll notice the change in your life when you switch that out for appreciation. This is among the best exercises for couples sex therapy. Also, it makes it possible for you and your partner to have greater skin-to-skin contact, which triggers the production of oxytocin. Also, it makes morning sex much easier!

One another’s massages: This is a fantastic habit to form! Imagine that after a challenging day, your beloved is lavishing you with a loving massage. Whatever your reason, massage is an excellent method for enhancing intimacy and unwinding before bed.

What stinks at the end of the day, do you know? Absence of gratitude. Criticism. You’ll see the difference in your life after you replace that with appreciation.

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