Indications He Only Wants to Have Fun and Doesn’t Want a Relationship with You

You like a person, but he may not be interested in a serious relationship. Avoid grief by learning the warning signals that he doesn’t desire a relationship with you. It’s difficult to date while you’re single. Nobody warns you about how challenging it is to meet someone who not only likes you but shares your goals.

You can predict the course of your relationship by observing the indications that he doesn’t desire a connection with you. He may like you, but it doesn’t mean he wants to be in a relationship with you right away. He might have simply desired something lighthearted and informal at first, the exact opposite of what you desired. However, how can you tell for sure if he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you? So, guys aren’t really as complicated as you may think.

Why do some men not want a serious relationship?

It might be challenging to tell when a guy wants something serious and when he wants something casual. Why then do so many guys favor casual attire? You cannot go in only partially when you commit to someone. Making a relationship succeed requires investing time and effort into it. Thus, regardless of the reason, some males avoid anything important when they’re simply not prepared for that kind of responsibility.

How to recognize the telltale indicators that he isn’t interested in dating you

Although mind-reading isn’t required of you, it’s a good idea to learn to recognize the warning indications that the guy you’re dating might not be interested in a long-term relationship. Understanding the indicators helps neither of you waste the other’s time by giving you a feel of what he’s looking for.

He has stated that he is not seeking a serious relationship.

This is not him trying to fool you if he has said he isn’t searching for anything serious. If he has said this, it is because he is seeking that particular answer. Don’t read anything else into it.

If he has stated repeatedly that a commitment is not what he seeks, he is sincere. Don’t try to change it from what it already is.

You’re uncomfortable being near him.

You already know he’s not interested in a relationship; you’re just unable to face reality. If everything was perfect and you were in love, you wouldn’t be reading this article. You intuitively sensed that he wanted something informal even before discussing this feature. There is typically a deeper explanation why you don’t feel like yourself around him if that is the case.

He doesn’t attempt to get to know you

It should be quite clear when a guy doesn’t make an effort to get to know you that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. Despite what it may seem like, when someone likes you, they want to know more about you. Why? They want to know as much as they can if they are considering a future with you. He never shares any personal information about himself, despite his best efforts to do so, because to him this is all simply casual conversation.

He doesn’t reveal himself to you

Someone will open up emotionally when they trust you and feel affection for you. Being open and vulnerable demonstrates their comfort in your presence and their desire for the relationship to grow.

The reason he won’t be vulnerable with you, even if it’s just a small detail, is because he doesn’t want to commit, which is related to the prior argument. In order to avoid a messy breakup or ghosting, he is trying to keep himself at arm’s length from you. For him, it’s all just a passing fling.

He’s erratic

A guy who is sincere about you won’t act in this way. Someone will become your top priority if you value them. The most obvious indication that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you is if he is unreliable. It demonstrates that when the going gets tough, you can’t count on or trust him.

You don’t actually go on dates

Your “date evenings” will only be Netflix and chill nights if he isn’t interested in a long-term relationship. No of how long you’ve been seeing each other, you never go on actual dates. He’s solely concerned about taking advantage of you physically. He either bails or diverts the discussion when it comes to establishing both mental and emotional intimacy. He only considers issues that will benefit him. One of the obvious indications that he doesn’t want to date you is that he has said this.

He doesn’t want to categorize their connection

This is definitely a big red flag. He’s not interested in dating you if he doesn’t want to refer to you as his girlfriend or call you that. That is all there is to it. You’re merely “having fun” or “taking things easy,” in his eyes. He would make you his girlfriend if he wanted you to be his.

He Doesn’t Want a Relationship with You,  He vanishes

After a few days of conversation, he will vanish. He either doesn’t respond to your texts or he will cancel your plans. And then, just when you think he won’t return, he reappears. Recall our statement about being flaky? He would do all in his power to gain your trust and, more importantly, your heart if he truly desired a relationship with you. We can tell you that he didn’t simply “forget to call you” because he is quite skilled at what he does.

There is no time for you from him.

Someone will try to spend as much time with you as possible if they like you. But it’s not a good indicator if you find it difficult to spend one day per week with him. He’s sincere about you if he goes to great lengths to spend even a small amount of time with you. If not, it’s one of the clearest indications that he doesn’t want to date you.

He doesn’t discuss his future with you

If not in order to maintain a casual relationship, why would a guy avoid discussing the future? Talking about the future doesn’t interest him because all he wants to do is have fun and keep things light.

Although we’re not referring to a marriage-related future, this also covers weekend and holiday arrangements. He isn’t into you if you don’t make plans for the summer or discuss where you see yourselves in six months; if he were, he would be doing so.

You’ve never met his family or friends.

We can understand why you haven’t yet met his friends or family if you’ve only recently met him.  This is too early for that. Yet, if you’ve been dating for a few months, you should, at the absolute least, have made a friend. Ask him why you haven’t met any of his family members. It just suggests that he knows you won’t be a serious person and doesn’t want them to meet you. We are aware that it hurts, but it is the harsh reality.

He just texts you.

You don’t talk on the phone for communication purposes. You solely use text messages to communicate. You don’t even share social media accounts. One indication that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you is if the two of you have never had a phone conversation and only communicate via text messages. Even when you text him, it takes him a very long time to respond. You’re obviously not that significant to him.

You don’t believe him

The power of our gut feeling should not be underestimated, therefore pay attention to it. You can’t quite put your finger on why you don’t trust him, but there is something about him. No matter if you’re together or apart, you constantly question his motives. Unless you’ve always had insecurities, the symptoms strongly suggest that he has different priorities than you do.

He makes large promises but doesn’t keep them

He will text you to let you know how much he misses you but won’t schedule a visit. Of course, it feels good when he says these things to you, but what about his behavior? Since actions speak louder than words, you should look at his deeds to determine his intentions. It is clear that he is not that into you if he consistently manages to compliment you but never follows up with behavior or actions.

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You suspect he has no interest in dating you.

You know what’s happening deep down, but you simply don’t want to face reality. Your first impression is that this man doesn’t share your goals. What are you still holding out for? It would be wiser to go on and find someone better than waste your time and energy on a person who is only interested in having fun and keeping things casual. You are never heard by him

He is not interested in you if he ignores all of your rants and anecdotes and is clearly thinking about someone else. One indication that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you is that he doesn’t even try to listen.

He just sees you for sex

A man will maintain a no-strings-attached type of relationship if he has no interest in developing a meaningful relationship with you. He won’t be interested in anything else than close physical contact.

Of course, if he told you this right away and you didn’t listen, it’s your fault. If not, though, keep track of how often you get together. You’ll know the answer if he simply agrees to meet for a hookup.

He talks to other girls constantly

This ought to be such a clear indication! One indication that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you is if his phone is constantly flooded with texts and calls from other girls. You are only one of the girls he just so happened to meet when he is obviously enjoying himself casually dating around without the expectation of commitment.

There’s always an excuse

He always has an explanation when you inquire as to when you will be officially dating. What’s the rush? Has he ever uttered? or play “we’re still getting to know each other” on you; these are just a few of the many justifications he keeps handy for every follow-up question. The key is that he always arrives at a line in good shape.

He’s already disappointed you once

If a guy is truly into you, he will go out of his way to avoid disappointing you, breaking your heart, and most importantly, letting you down. Thus, if he has previously let you down more than once, that alone is a warning sign that he isn’t interested in you. Even if he does feel anything for you, it won’t be enough to convince him to choose you above anyone else. He’s too preoccupied having fun to worry about disappointing you.  He’ll likely apologize without remorse and keep saying it. Hence, cease allowing him to get away with this behavior by denying him any further opportunities.

Are you noticing any of these indications that he doesn’t want to date you?

Why bother if you already have a gut feeling that he doesn’t care about you in a meaningful way?

You could tell if a person was into you by his body language, behaviors, and conduct if he was into you. If not, he won’t care if he keeps disappointing you and abandoning your plans until it’s advantageous to him.

No one ever said that falling in love was simple, but that doesn’t mean you have to put up with someone who doesn’t treat you right. Hence, be on the lookout for these warning indications that he doesn’t want to date you.

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