Why Men Enjoy a Chase

Posted: June 19, 2023
Category: Relationships, Self-Esteem

Why Men Enjoy a Chase and How to Take Advantage of It

Men are not exempt from the human desire for what they cannot have. Therefore, if you’ve ever wondered why males enjoy chasing women, here are your explanations.  Women have long been advised to play the hard to get. Men have been known to enjoy the pursuit for just as long. But before you follow something that has been passed from one woman’s ear to another, you need to grasp the whys in order to actually succeed in the dating scene.

For women, playing hard to get might feel contradictory, especially if a guy you like a lot tells you to do it. Why would you want to play chase if you like him and he likes you? Do not worry. We’re here to dispel myths about being difficult to obtain and to explain why men enjoy a chase.

Men and women differ in certain ways.

It can be traced back to the hunter-gatherer era that men developed the innate desire to take pleasure in a woman playing hard to get. Simply put, the women were the gatherers and the men were the hunters. To provide food for themselves and their families, the men dispersed from the household and went hunting. Women collected plants and associated foods because they did not need a “hunting instinct” to do it; instead, their impulse was to ensure the survival of the infants.

The “hunting instinct” and the “maternal/gathering instinct,” as you might expect, are two quite distinct things. Many centuries later, men still possess the “hunting instinct.” The main difference is that, at least in the contemporary, civilized world, there are no longer any real creatures to hunt. So where do they go to exercise their innate hunting instincts?

In the contemporary environment, they satisfy their innate hunting urges by pursuing attainable goals. Additionally, they experience a sense of worth by competing for a woman’s affection, which greatly enhances their ego and masculinity.

Men enjoy a chase pursuing their egos

Men are compelled by competitiveness by nature. Achieving something that other men would consider unachievable makes them feel stronger and more “manly.” Men therefore frequently enjoy battling for a girl’s attention when chasing her. They are aware that a great female attracts all of the world’s attention. She certainly has many possibilities when a lot of great guys strive to woo and date her.

The great girl then weighs the chances, determines which guy likes her significantly more than the rest, and simultaneously assesses her compatibility. Therefore, what guys refer to as a pursuit isn’t actually a chase; rather, it’s a girl’s method of analyzing her options and choosing the one who seems more motivated and willing to demonstrate his love for her.

Because of this, a guy who finally wins a fantastic girl’s attention is aware that he is superior to all the other contenders. Now, that’s a major blow to his ego, and he feels like he just won a significant award. Men become aware of the girl’s importance thanks to the pursuit.

Men experience love in phases. Getting a girl’s attention when they first meet her is their top priority before they decide whether or not she is actually suitable for dating. This is the tricky part of a man’s mind that you really need to understand.

Like women, men are critical of their potential partners and will easily form opinions based on how “easy to get” someone is. So if you’re too easy to get, he may wonder if he deserves someone better.

But don’t let this sway you from acting on how you truly feel. If you do end up kissing him on the first date or even having sex with him, just don’t worry about it. The chase only helps you evaluate a dating potential. If you’re certain that both of you like each other already, just take the plunge!

The ferocity of the pursuit

If a man doesn’t genuinely like you or believe you’re to die for, he can get bored and give up the chase after a few weeks of your attempts to make him chase you. And when you turn around with a flirtatious smile and see that the guy has long since left, you’d appear like a complete moron. The fervor with which a man pursues you determines how intense his love is for you. Take it easy on the guy you’re chasing if you actually like him.

Why Men Enjoy a Chase

Play hard to get and see if a guy remains around if you’re not sure if you like him back or if he’s just trying to get into your trousers. Also keep in mind that a guy isn’t pursuing you out of obligation. He probably deliberately wants to continue the hunt because he enjoys the way it makes him feel. This is why it’s crucial to avoid chasing after a guy you don’t want to be pursued by.

Should women act seductively?

Women should definitely play the hard to get in general. It increases a guy’s value of the connection and helps him recognize your value. Additionally, if he cherishes the connection, he will be more concerned with making you happy than with leaving you alone. Playing hard to get only works if both parties are attracted to one another. We advise against carrying it out if you are acting coy without having any interest in the guy. Don’t be the type of woman to play with a man’s emotions for amusement.

How do you use the chase to your advantage?

Don’t make a commitment to him if you want to have a good relationship with someone you could date… at the very least at first. Don’t admit to him that you’re missing him or that you’re falling for him. He’ll start taking it easy and making the decisions once he understands he’s left a lasting impression on you rather than attempting to win you over.

Give him a surprise happy moment every now and again to give him a burst of renewed vigor to pursue you more assiduously. You might start by sending him a sweet note or surprising him with a kiss to let him know you appreciate all of his efforts to win you over. Playing the chase is entertaining, but you still need to exercise caution. If he lets go of you after a while, don’t go after him again. Contrary to what most males believe, a chase is not a game that is played according to the rules.

When a guy doesn’t seem to be interested in you, don’t play hard to get, and if your instinct is telling you not to, don’t chase him after he’s let you go. A guy wouldn’t consider turning the tables on the pursuit if he truly liked you and wasn’t just attempting to get into your trousers. The successful chase strategy for women

A guy would undoubtedly make an effort to capture your heart if he is truly interested in dating you for who you are and not just to use you as a prize to feed his ego or to get into your trousers.

It isn’t termed a chase when you ignore or mistreat a guy. It’s a psychological game that probably won’t go in your favor. Respect the man who is after you instead, and be grateful for everything he does for you. Your appeal to him will grow.

A cautious pursuit

Go out with him and pursue a relationship with him with all of your heart’s enthusiasm if you want the chase to be successful. Despite letting him know that you are pleased to spend time with him, find ways to pique his interest.

Always keep in mind to stop one step short of what he wants while still offering him a small window of hope that is one step higher than the previous time the two of you went together. Have trouble understanding it? On the second date, if you held his hand during the first date, let him grip your palm instead. If you shared a small kiss on the lips on the third date, share a little more on the following one. It doesn’t matter if you only smiled when you first met him; every so often, share a little more, even if you haven’t gone on a date with him yet. It will let him know that the relationship is developing gradually and will also make him aware that you’re beginning to really like him.

If cuddles and cozy bedtimes aren’t your thing, you can still play the field by moving more slowly. Hold the handshake for a little longer if you’ve been doing it for a while. Give him a quick kiss on the cheek after you’ve both given each other a hug. But always keep in mind that you should only advance things if he does something very nice for you.

The game of a chase between men and women can be played in a variety of ways, but this is one of the most equitable. You can be sure the guy you’re dating isn’t just attempting to get into your pants by going gently. At the same time, you have the opportunity to fall in love with each other fully without hastening the process or having lust or physical attraction impair your judgment.

Keep your mind free of anything but the enjoyment you have when it’s just the two of you since sex always has a way of complicating things, unless you ended up having sex on the first few dates.

Why going slowly and steadily will always pay off for you

In contrast to relationships where there wasn’t a long courting period, studies have indicated that relationships with a longer courting period have a better probability of enduring for a very long time. This is so that you may ensure that the attraction is not solely sexual by playing hard to get in the proper way. Instead of only seeking instant fulfillment, you two are steadily falling in love.

Men enjoy a chase to convince both you and himself that everything he does for you is worthwhile. He believes you deserve it. Therefore, avoid playing the chase game carelessly and supposing that it will succeed because someone else stated it will. Understanding how something works and giving it some thought are the only ways to truly comprehend why we act the way we do. This is particularly crucial when it comes to relationships because second chances are so rare.

When you next start dating a new guy, try this chase. You’ll both be able to clearly see the direction the relationship is taking. And you’ll see that everything is always going your way.

 

Inquire Talk certified therapists who you can get in touch and book a therapy session with:

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