Self-Esteem Building in Therapy
Self-esteem exploration and stabilization are frequently at the core of psychotherapy. Over the course of therapy, clients reveal a lot to their therapist. This experience can eventually help the client come to feel real acceptance and respect. Clients may have the chance to mend old wounds and alter damaging assumptions they hold about the world and themselves through the therapy interaction.
What exactly is self-esteem?
The extent to which we have high opinions of ourselves is known as self-esteem. It encompasses how we see our physical appearance as well as how we see our abilities and accomplishments. How we think other people are reacting to us frequently has a significant impact on this.
Much of our experience is influenced by our sense of self. What, for instance, makes you feel admirable in your own eyes? When do you experience regret or guilt? What qualities about others do you admire? What can you do to feel better when you don’t feel good about yourself?
Unfounded confirmation
We may create “pseudo-selves” in an effort to live up to the expectations of others in circumstances where acceptance is difficult to come by or where rejection is likely. A pseudo-self is a representation of who we think we are that we make up in an effort to fit in. The ability to adapt to others is an essential part of growth, but when we go to such great efforts to please others that we feel the need to conceal significant pieces of who we are and put on masks, something is wrong.
For people who experience persecution and marginalization, this can be extremely poignant.
E. B. Du Bois talked about having a “double consciousness” of being African and American in 1903. “The impression of always looking at oneself through the eyes of others, of measuring one’s soul by the tape of a world that looks on in amused scorn and pity,” Du Bois said of this. In the 1970s and 2000s, respectively, Andrew Tobias and Alan Downs investigated the virtuoso efforts made by gay White men to make up for their rejection by seeking professional and monetary success.
We run the risk of losing touch with our own emotions and ideals while “masks” are rewarded. We can also miss out on the chance to receive real approval. This may lead to substance misuse, self-harm, fury, emptiness, confusion, sadness, and anxiety.
The presence of genuine validation in therapy might be very different. Clients open up a lot to their therapists over time. This frequently involves feelings of extreme vulnerability or embarrassment. Experiencing acceptance and respect in this situation, where one has communicated fully and is not required to present a caricature of oneself, may be profoundly validating. Clients may eventually have the self-assurance to consider themselves as a member of the human family rather than as something different or repugnant.