Is my boyfriend lying to me? 10 Sneaky Actions & Signals That Men Can’t Hide

Do you suspect your boyfriend of being unfaithful to you? If so, you must be aware of the symptoms in order to be certain. Here are all the details and instructions you need. Nobody likes to sit there and consider the possibility that their boyfriend might be unfaithful. But in actuality, it does occur. But, just because something is a common reality doesn’t make it any less painful. In fact, it probably exacerbates the discomfort.

One of the worst things a person may do in a relationship is cheat, not to mention that it is cowardly. Some individuals, however, simply cannot tolerate being in a committed relationship and opt to be unfaithful.

Why do people cheat in a relationship?

If you’ve been cheated on – or even if you haven’t – you might wonder why people would cheat on their partner. After all, they are supposed to be in love, right? So what would make someone betray their better half? Here are some common reasons why boyfriends and husbands cheat:

Wanting variety

While some people like being with only one person for the rest of their lives *or even one at a time*, some people don’t like that. They get bored with the same sexual partners, so they go seeking out another one. Or they might be interested in different types of sex that their partner isn’t into, even if they match well on other levels.

Low self esteem

Cheating may help some people feel better about themselves. You would assume that after betraying their relationship, they would feel terrible about themselves, but some people don’t. Someone may feel attractive, self-assured, or empowered after having sex with a new person.

Many persons with low self-esteem who cheat have loving, encouraging spouses who do show them compassion or support. They might, however, believe that their spouse has a duty to inform them of these facts or they may simply not want them to feel awful. They don’t actually believe their partner, in other words. But they might accept the word of another.

Having a breakup

Although falling in love is an exhilarating experience for everyone, it doesn’t endure forever. You experience passion, excitement, and dopamine rushes when you fall in love with someone. But over time, those emotions typically lose some of their vigor. Yeah, it develops into a solid, enduring love. However, the initial attraction only persists for a short while.

A person could come to the realization that there isn’t lasting love there once the butterflies disappear. They might also come to the realization that they are in love with someone else. A person may feel the need to fall in love again if they are in a relationship without passionate love. And so, in an effort to locate it, they cheat.

Circumstances

Even the potential for cheating can increase its likelihood. Although not everyone who has the chance will take advantage of it, these elements may increase the incentive to cheat. Let’s take the scenario where you’re not really content with your relationship and feel self-conscious about your appearance.

But, one day a pleasant coworker approaches you and says they like you and want to hang out. Or perhaps you’ve already met them outside. An miserable relationship, low body confidence, and a coworker who showed interest in you might not have made you decide to cheat, but since they are, infidelity suddenly seems more alluring.

Rage or retaliation

Perhaps you recently learned that your partner had an affair. Give them a taste of their own medicine while you’re still shocked and hurt so they can truly grasp your suffering. Infidelity that is driven by anger can also occur for motives other than vengeance.

Say your lover doesn’t seem to care that you’re unhappy in your relationship. Maybe you may be resentful because your partner doesn’t provide you much in the way of physical or emotional support. Whatever the source of the anger, it can be a strong drive for having a sexual or emotional relationship with someone else.

Issues with commitment

Individuals who struggle with commitment may cheat more frequently than those who don’t. Furthermore, different people have different definitions of commitment. Two persons may have quite different perceptions of the relationship’s state. It’s possible for one individual to perceive it as casual while another may perceive it as exclusive.

It’s also possible to sincerely appreciate someone while harboring reservations about becoming close to them. Even if they wish to stay in the relationship, the person may end up cheating as a strategy of avoiding commitment in those situation.

Desire for sexual activity

Someone may decide to cheat simply because they want to have sex. If someone has unfulfilled sexual urges and the chance to cheat, they might take it. But, if a person has an excessive sex desire and unfulfilled sexual demands, they may just hunt for opportunities to cheat without any additional variables being present.

Even those in sexually fulfilling partnerships may still desire more sex with different individuals. This may not necessarily be due to any sexual or intimate issues in their relationship, but rather to a high level of sexual desire.

Is my boyfriend lying to me?

How to recognize a cheating lover

While most boyfriends make an effort to conceal their infidelity, there are several unmistakable indicators that will let you know he isn’t being a very committed partner. He may occasionally lose control due to remorse and make a mistake, giving you the chance to capture him!

Yet, just because your boyfriend exhibits some of these behaviors doesn’t necessarily suggest that he is an unfaithful partner. His shady behavior may be the result of stress, anxiety, and other factors in his life. Yet, we’ve compiled some of the typical indicators of infidelity for you below. Hence, if they start to accumulate, you might be dealing with a cheater.

1. He secures everything using passwords.

He might be communicating to someone he doesn’t want you to know about if there are suddenly severe “lock out” policies on his computer and mobile device, which he never had before.

In any case, you shouldn’t ever snoop through his belongings, but if you try to peek and a red alarm sounds, he is probably keeping anything from you.

2. He is unable to recall his time

He might have gone somewhere he shouldn’t have been if he can’t recall where he was on Wednesday last week or even last night. The tendency to forget things you do is not very unusual. Yet, it’s a red flag that something is wrong if he can’t recall the last four hours of his life.

3. Suddenly, he is working late.

In some professions, working overtime will occasionally be necessary. Nevertheless, if this is the first time he has worked late or if he isn’t returning home with more money or a promotion, you can start to wonder whether he is staying late on purpose to be with someone. Or he decides to leave his job altogether.

4. He has a perfume-like odor.

The only way to smell like a woman’s perfume is to approach her closely. Is he dishonest? It’s not like a woman’s perfume will fly through the air and stick to him, though! Thus, you might want to think twice if he comes home smelling like a woman who isn’t you.

5. He conceals his texts.

He probably doesn’t want you to see something if he rushes to his phone when a text message comes in, pushing everything out of the way. If your anniversary and birthday are far off, he probably has another surprise in store for you that he doesn’t want you to learn about. You can be led to believe he is cheating by this.

6. He starts blaming you for cheating

That might be projection if he jumps all over you when you arrive home five minutes late. His guilt causes him to accuse you of doing the exact same thing he does, which is a psychological term for projecting your own behaviors onto someone else. He might be cheating on you if he hasn’t ever been jealous before and you haven’t given him any cause to think that things have changed.

7. Your credit card has unusual charges.

He might be wooing another person’s heart by taking them to pricey dinners or buying them expensive gifts if you see transactions on your joint credit card or bank statement that don’t make sense. Is he definitely lying? Unexpected charges, on the other hand, typically suggest that there may be a problem in your connection that you are unaware of.

8. He fabricates his travel history

He was somewhere he shouldn’t have been if, despite his insistence that he was at his friend Matt’s, you know he wasn’t there. He is most likely cheating if he is lying. You don’t need to lie when you aren’t acting improperly, after all.

9. He began improving himself by exercising.

The guy you fell in love with doesn’t mind having love handles at all. But now he suddenly goes to the gym after work and is concerned about his calorie intake. That implies that he is either cheating on you or that someone is spying on him. And he is putting effort into his body in the hopes of treating her the same way. Is he dishonest? Because occasionally guys merely get into kicks about trying to get in shape, this is not usually a symptom of cheating.

10. He exhibits moodiness

It could indicate that things are tough at work or that he has been cheating on you if he has usually been a fairly level-headed person but suddenly seems to lose his temper and fly off the handle. It’s terribly nasty to feel guilty. It causes us to act in erratic ways. He probably gets angry and agitated with you in an effort to make up for his bad behavior and defend what he does on the side.

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