Communication Exercises for Couples
Every relationship is built on effective communication. Talking. Listening. Hearing. Successful communication requires that partners learn to express their true feelings and be able to actively and honestly listen to one another. Hearing their words is not enough. It’s more important to comprehend the significance and purpose of them. The better for it are those who comprehend this and consistently try to advance their approach. A much happier marriage results from less haziness and more clarity. And because of this, it’s a good idea to have some couple communication exercises on hand. They facilitate communication while addressing any inefficiencies.
Communication Exercises for Couples
What, however, are the worthwhile communication excercises, particularly for working parents who have a lot to say to one another? We talked to several therapists and solicited their opinions. They spent a short amount of time and engaged in relatively easy workouts with us. But, despite their lack of commitment, they are highly effective in helping you concentrate on critical abilities like active listening, dispute resolution, and expressing thanks. Make a commitment to using these exercises more frequently, or even just to remember their general ideas, and you’ll probably experience fewer missed connections and greater success.
Better Communication Exercises for Couples
- Non-Interruptive Listening
It’s a common sight: One partner talks, the other person simply waits for their turn to speak or fully buts in. Pretty much everyone is guilty of interrupting but we all need to be better as it takes empathy out of the conversation and turns communication into a game of one-upmanship. This simple exercise seeks to root out that bad habit. And yeah, it might seem obvious, but going into a discussion with this framework in mind helps set the tone.
It works like this: One partner speaks for five-to-seven minutes and the other partner just, well, listens. When the first person is finished, the other then asks questions to help them understand what they just heard. “How did it make you feel to tell me that?” How can I help the next time be better? What makes it so important to you, and why? The other spouse can talk after those queries have been addressed and clarified.
The goal of this exercise is to better understand one another, not to have one of the partners defend what they did or how they did it.
- Showing Thankfulness
Two syllables in two words. “You” and “thank you.” But, it’s amazing how frequently these words are omitted from conversations between spouses and how many things are ignored or thought little enough to not be worth praising. The simple things that spouses do for one other on a daily basis frequently go unnoticed. Simply consider expressing gratitude and taking the time to thank someone for something, such as making you coffee or filling up your car with petrol yesterday.
This motivates us to pay attention to how and when our partner is already showing up for us, and to verbally express thanks. This activity can also help people who benefit from words of affirmation by filling that need. The more we express our appreciation for one another and feel valued, the more motivated we might feel to offer one other care. This practice can also result in a favorable snowball effect for the relationship.